Tradition
Death & mourning rituals.
A brief overview of traditional Jewish customs surrounding death, burial, and the period of mourning that follows.
There are a number of important rituals around death in Judaism. As soon as a Jew hears of the death of a loved one, they make a tear in their clothing to show their grief. This action is called kriah and it is a symbol of loss and grief.
Upon death, the body is washed and prepared for burial. In the days before the funeral, the body is not left alone.
In Jewish tradition, burial should happen as soon as possible after death. The coffin should be simple to show equality, and the burial ceremony takes place at a cemetery, not in a synagogue.
Funeral services include prayers, psalms and a eulogy. Families are encouraged to erect a gravestone so that the dead are not forgotten.
A close relative (parent, child, sibling, or spouse) of the deceased becomes an onan while awaiting the burial. Out of respect for the deceased, the immediate relatives must be fully focused on the burial.
The Kaddish is the prayer for those who mourn. It is traditionally said by the closest male relative on the day of the death. Many Jews feel that saying this prayer helps people focus on God at a time when they may feel far from him.
Stages of mourning
Shiva
The first seven days of mourning after the burial. Some Jews do not leave the house during this period; others visit them and create a minyan for communal worship in the home.
Avelut
If someone has lost a parent, they will mourn for a whole year. During the avelut year they will not attend parties and will say the Kaddish blessing every day.
Yahrzeit
The anniversary of a death. The night before, many Jews light a candle of remembrance for 24 hours. The Kaddish is said on this day. Many also fast and make charitable donations.
The role of Chevra Kaddisha
Making sure that a Jewish person has a proper burial is not only an act of kindness — it is also regarded as an honor and a sacred duty.
Chevra Kaddisha means "sacred society." It is the voluntary group with members worldwide, performing the final rites for Jewish people. They work with funeral directors, cemeteries, hospitals, and families to ensure that the person's death and burial fits with Jewish teachings and customs. Their work often starts with visits to a dying person and continues through burial and mourning.
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